Often times we associate happiness with receiving what it is we want. That could be anything, our bills to disappear, to win that lottery we've been buying tickets for the past 3 years, to have normal family members...While we think this would make us happy, the truth is it won't. We, as humans, are beings that always want more, nothing is ever enough. In saying this, I am not going to say it's what we have that counts either, of course having a roof over your head and friends that would pay your bail are nice, not all of us have that, and the point I'm trying to make is that EVERYONE can achieve happiness. As a close friend told me, "Happiness is not a destination, but a state of mind". There is nothing truer than this. Think about it, you have no closer friend than yourself. Some may not believe this and argue that they have friends that see the best in them when they can't, if you are lucky enough to have that, good for you! I'm not saying that friendship is fake, I'm merely saying, if you be kind to yourself and keep your best interests at heart, you will be the most loyal friend you could ever have. I realize this is hard to accept for some, it took a while for myself; in honesty I'm still working on it.
Point is, you have to sit down and take a few moments to realize this: You may be 15 pounds heavier than you would like; you may struggle to achieve a C average no matter how much you study; you may have few friends, if any; but this is it. There is no other chance, you are who you are. You can join Jenny Craig, sign yourself up at sylvan learning center, or pay that kid down the street to watch The Walking Dead with you, doesn't matter. If you are having internal problems with yourself you can't cover them. Sooner or later the Red Paint will drip off, revealing the White Roses and the Queen will be even more agitated than she was before.
Think of it this way. Imagine someone you cared about deeply, gives you a book as a gift for some occasion or other, and shortly after passes away. You are faced with a dilemma, read the book and eventually wear the pages; or keep it safely on a shelf to forever gather dust. Here's the answer, you must do both. This is the sure way to not insult their memory. This is how you must treat yourself.
You are the gift. There is no other, you're the one and only. Be careful not to insult yourself or cause harm to yourself, because you can't go to the store and pick out a new one. This being said, you can't allow yourself to go through life being ignorant. Just make sure to teach yourself not punish.
Another thing about happiness is how others see it. Everyone's always trying to tell you what you want; "I know you think you want that Sandwich, but you're wrong, I had it before and it was gross". It's not that they don't care about your feelings, but in thinking of yours, the reality is, most of them confuse your feelings with their own. I know you don't want to hurt them, you want to do what would make them happy. But STOP. seriously. Take a step back and realize how stupid this is! Not doing what they want, does not mean you don't care or love them, it means you care and love yourself. So you want them to die happy? What about you? Thing is, you're going to live just about as long as they do and your life is just as important, probably more, because it's your own.
A cold hard fact is, none of us make it out alive, whether you believe in an after life or not, you can't deny this is our only chance at this life. Stop reading to think about this, you could die tomorrow. I know you've read and heard it a million times, but honestly think about it. Go ahead take a few moments.
Scary as shit right?
Now, go ahead and do all those things you were upset you wouldn't be able to. Want to get married? Find yourself a hottie and don't take no for an answer. Want to see the Louvre Museum? Buy yourself a plane ticket; or if you live in Paris, march your ass down the street.
Bonne Chance
much love <3
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